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I have a somewhat hard time understanding the situation. Was she sure that he didn’t have a car nearby? Was it a dangerous area? If so, why was she there?

I can think of a few legitimate reasons a man might call out to a woman in a parking lot. She might have dropped her wallet, or her child dropped a water bottle. Or maybe he thought she was a former classmate and he wanted to say hi.

So no, while she had a right to be wary, I don’t think she was reasonable to scream at him or berate him.

I would note that generally a man should be respectful that women are smaller and may feel threatened. Sometimes I have walked behind a woman on a dark street, realized she seemed nervous, and slowed down or moved to the other side. But sometimes there will be misunderstandings and you shouldn’t berate strangers for innocent mistakes.

Finally, I agree the cardinal rule of urban survival is to avoid dangerous situations, walk away, deflect and use the minimum intervention required when you are alarmed. And never try to “win” an interaction with a stranger. There is just no point in it.

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